I have always thought that I was meant for something bigger. I have always thought that I was meant for something more. But, what is more? What is better? I still don't know and that is the dilemma that I face. I think many people (of all ages) face this as well.
What am I supposed to be doing in life?
You must be thinking okay, doesn't everything think they are the best and meant for "more?"
The more I hear CEO's, entrepreneurs and people who have started companies talk about what got them to where they are and why they are doing what they do, the more I think that not everyone out there is naturally meant to become "more." The more I think and know that not everyone out there in the world thinks the way that I think. Some of this feeling of wanting and believing you are made for something bigger comes from confidence. But, I don't think that is all of it. I think some people just find themselves thinking this way and that might have to do with how one grew up, who they surround themselves with, lucky breaks, education, chance, etc. BUT, I also think a lot of it has to do with just recognizing that you feel that way. Because NOT everyone feels that way. I know this because I ask them...
Maybe some of it has to do with confidence. But, I think confidence is something that can be learned.
I am naturally confident. I have no clue why.
I have no reason to be confident but I am.
Most CEO's or people who have started successful companies ended up starting a company due to many different reasons and factors. A lot of them talk about just knowing they were meant for "more." For some reason that they knew they were meant for something "bigger" and that they weren't sure what that "more" was, but since they knew that feeling inside of them was there - that they worked their way there.
They followed their SPARK.
SO how do you work your way to something bigger? How do people figure out what their spark is and know to follow it?
- You had people in your early days of your life that pushed you.
- You had people always telling you that you were great. That you were smart.
- No one brought you down and if they did you fought back.
- You know for some strange, weird reason that you are better than something.
- Even if you don't know why you are better or meant for something more, you are. You believe that.
- It is all about belief. If you believe you are great, you are great. It will show.
- You likely grew up exposed to business and business talk.
Successful business owners are people who work hard for what they want. They surround their selves with people who are smarter than they are. They work their way to being the best at ONE thing. They know they can do it and that one thing sparks something in them that most people don't have naturally.
Do what makes you spark. And then stick to that spark.
When you feel a spark in your heart, in your soul, in your brain KEEP GOING. Go harder. Don't give up. Because giving up is easy and guess what is harder? Sticking with it.
Hard things are hard for a reason. Most people give up on hard things. If you set your mind to something that makes you "spark" you will end up doing something "bigger" and you will work your way up to what you thought you should be doing. Whatever that bigger thing might be, you might not know what it is yet, but if you follow what makes you happy and what makes you spark, you will get there.
Here are some other lessons I have learned from successful business owners and CEOs who found their spark in life.
- You are an asset to your company.
- Be okay, no more than okay with who you are. Embrace that.
- Guess what? When you become Okay with who you are and embrace it- others will embrace it as well and think you are wonderful.
- Surround yourself with people that you want to be like or aspire to be like.
- If you surround yourself with people that you don't like or don't aspire to be like then you won't end up where you want to be.
- Don't allow people to suck up your valuable time. Spend time with people who you think are going to learn from you and you are going to learn from them.
- You fail because you stop trying and you stop learning. So never stop learning.
- When you feel the spark, keep on going. Keep on trucking through the hardship because that will get you to the place that you want to be at. Most people stop. The ones who don't become CEOs, they become owners of companies. If that is what you want, then don't stop when the going gets hard.
- The things that are hard today will be easier tomorrow. The more hard things that you do the easier things will get. The more that you will know and your sphere of hard will get smaller. :)
- Spend your time on things that you want out of your life.
- Focus on being better. All the time.
- Be vulnerable. Share your experiences with people you would like to learn from because that is the only way they will expose to you what you should be learning from them. Someone needs to go first. Let that person be you.
- Be intentional in the time you spend professionally, personally and with your romantic relationships. They all matter.
- Don't have guilt. You are doing something because you picked to do that thing. Stay confident in what you decided on and don't give yourself the guilt trip for doing something. Own what you are choosing to do. You chose to do that thing for a reason so don't guilt trip yourself into thinking that is a wrong decision.
When you feel the most alive is the moment when you should know that what you are doing is what you are meant to be doing. Keep doing that thing, get better at that thing. Guess what? From what I have heard from people, that one thing will lead to opportunities that you didn't know would exist. The more you do what "sparks you" inside the better you will feel at finding your direction in life. The more you will work your way towards finding what you are meant to be doing in life.
Find your spark and go after that spark. That is all that matters in life.