- I still question myself if I am ready for something.
- I still question myself if I am doing a good job and deserve something more than my current role.
- I still have no idea why I don't think I am ready to be a manager or take on a larger role. What am I waiting for?
- I have all the strengths and all the things that any man would think they need to be "ready" for a bigger job. I still hold back and say things like - I want to learn more, or I need more time before I am ready to do that...(men don't think this way).
Why? Why do I hold myself back?
I bet I am not alone and bet other women out there do this too. I think this has to do with a lack of confidence in myself and feeling like I am not ready for it. Even though I probably am ready for it.
Women need to be aware that data shows that success correlates just as closely with confidence as it does with competence.
There is good news though. Confidence is something that can be learned and taught. It is something that we can directly impact and therefore by becoming more confident we as women can start to close the gap.
Here are 8 things that we as women can do TODAY to help to close the confidence gap?
1. We should stop underestimating our abilities.
2. Go for promotions even when you don't have 100 % of the qualifications of the role. Go for them earlier than you think you should have.
Men will apply for the same role or job when they only meet about 60 percent of the qualifications of the job. If we as women are more apt to apply for jobs where maybe we don't have 100 percent of the qualfiications we will get more women into roles where typically men are just applying.
3. We don't need to be perfect all the time.
4. Believe in yourself.
You need to try if you want to get somewhere. If you don't try then you never know what will happen. Do not opt out. Opt yourself in and try to get that job, that project, etc. If you don't try and you don't believe in yourself then you will never know what you are capable of.
5. Remember the saying- "fake it till you make it"?!
There is something to this statement. People who display theirselves as confident are more likely to be viewed as knowing what they are doing. They are more likely to be viewed as good at something. Whether they are actually good or not is sometimes irrelevant. I have seen this first hand. I am a sales person and a woman. I am lucky to be outspoken and I am lucky to be good at what I do. BUT, I have seen other women in sales who have failed and it was not because of their lack of smarts or knowledge, it was because of their confidence levels. If you are not confident it will come off to people around you and that will directly impact how competent people think you are.
6. Perfectionism is a female problem.
Women want to be perfect at things. Women want to be perfect at something before they think they are ready for the big promotion or for the A in class! When you strive to be perfect, it usually prevents you from actually getting things done. If you wait until your are perfect at something it might be too late.
7. Don't be a worrywart.
There are studies that show that women and men are just different in respect to worrying. I am a worrier. I worry about everything. I have no idea why. I also know that worrying doesn't help anything but I still seem to do it just because.